As I’m writing this post its 4 months and 3 days until I turn the big TWENTY, I can’t believe how quick it’s come around, it’s crazy! My seven years of being a teenager are almost up meaning I won’t be able to blame my mistakes on the fact I’m young anymore; well for the first year I’m twenty I’ll probably use the ‘I’ve only just turned an adult, I’m learning’ excuse. Anyway, I thought I’d write this post to reflect on a few things I wish I’d done differently as a teen.
I’ve always been quite a big worrier, I still am to this day, however, I’d like to think I try to rationalise things more now. When I was younger I’d stress out loads about an upcoming exam thinking I’m going to fail or not get the highest grade in my class, then I think I’m a failure and my whole life will go downhill, very over dramatic. The difference now is if I’m worried about an upcoming event, for example, an assessment, I’ll try and rationalise it; what’s part of the assessment is making me worry, once I’ve figured that out I’ll work on that little thing. At the end of that day the way I see it now is if I don’t pass but I’ve tried my hardest I can take it again, I have my whole life ahead of me.
GRADES AREN’T THE BE ALL OR END ALL
Remember how in school the teachers tended to favour the children who were getting A* and were outstanding students, It made me feel like I had to be that way. I felt like they were telling us if we don’t do amazing if every test you’ll have to work in a supermarket your whole life, which isn’t true and caused me a lot of anxiety. Grades are important to certain extend, you should always strive to do well but no one is going to care if you’re 5 marks of full marks.
DITCH THOSE BAD FRIENDS
I’m sure we’ve all had that friend at some point that only pretends to want to know you when they want something from you. However, when you’re young you don’t see it that way, you think they’re one of your best friends and you wouldn’t believe anyone who tells you they have bad intentions.
BE HAPPY WITH YOUR BODY
I’d say when I was around the age of sixteen I was pretty damn skinny however I didn’t see myself that way, I always thought I could do with losing a little more weight. A few more pounds. I look back now and I think it was really sad that I was worried about my figure and that I wasn’t eating anywhere near enough, there was nothing wrong with my body and I wish I’d realised that.
STOP CALORIE COUNTING
A female teenage roughly needs about 1,200 calories a day to function, I wasn’t getting this. The only thing I gained from counting the numbers in what I was eating was being more miserable and hungry. If I could tell sixteen years old me anything, it really would be to eat what you want when you want, you’re active enough to not worry about calories at all.
I’m sure if I sat down for longer a thought about it I could come up with a much longer list, we all make silly mistakes as a teenager but yet again we learn from them. I’d love to know what you’d tell your teenage self now, let me know in the comments!