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I’m sat here all snug in my dressing gown with strawberry cheesecake ice-cream and a cuppa tea, can you tell i’m in desperate need of some home comforts this evening?

Here’s the low-down. I’m up in the peak district for a few days on a canoeing course, something that sounds like it should be alot of run, right? There are parts of me that’s loving this little trip, for example, the absoultley stunning views! Then the parts that are like get me outta here now, it all comes down to me wanting to be the best, if not the best, pretty damn good at what i’m doing. If i’m in a situation where everyone else can do the task better than me and i’m struggling i’m instantly dis-heartened, then add in the cold weather and rain and you might be getting my mood. It’s like y’know everyone there wants you to succeed and do well but in your head all you think is ‘i’m rubbish, I want to give up at least for the time being where i’m making myself look silly’.

I’m not one to give up, I’ll try my best and keep practising until I get what I’m doing. I guess I’ve discovered a few things about myself:


This is totally natural, who does like being in that situation? It’s just realising that everyone has different comfort zones, someone else you’re with might be having the time of their life however put them in a different snerio and they’ll be uncomfortable. Bascially, there’s nothing wrong with being scared of doing something.

2. I LIKE TO SUCCEED VERY MUCH (even if I pretend like I don’t care)

I came on this course with the attitude of I know I’m going to fail however I’ll gain some experience and it’ll be fine and dandy. Now my opinions changed. It’s I’m going to try with every little piece of me to nail what I’ve gotta do, I’m going to pass, I can do this! I think the thought of failure scares me a lot, too much. I need to remember that it isn’t failing if you’ve left with more than you started with, even if it is just a little more knowledge.


I don’t know about you but I have a handful of hobbies, every single one is time consuming, you don’t have time to practice them all every day, even every week. Some hobbies will take priority, for me it’s climbing and blogging but it’s still okay to develop yourself in the other area’s. Okay yes, I’m not going to become the best at it as I don’t give it loads of time but I’ll be better than before and that’s improvement.

I’ve come to a realisation that I don’t really know where this post is going. I guess it’s me just trying to say don’t be disheartened if someone is better at something than you, you can always improve if you want to and it’s okay to not be as good as them.

I hope you’ve managed to follow this as I feel like my brains been a little bit everywhere on this one. I’d love to hear your opinions on ‘trying to be the best’.

Bryony xx


36 comments so far.


  1. hudapervez says:

    Loved reading this! You will always encounter people who are better at you at something that’s just a given but knowing that they too have someone who is better than them, makes it a little bit easier if that makes sense haha! xx

  2. Katie Henry says:

    This is so important, I definitely have become less bothered about if I’m the best. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Corinne and Kirsty says:

    This post is making me feel so good right now. I am always so worried i won’t nail everything I am doing but you just can’t be good everywhere. and you still got much to learn. I also pretend I don’t care but I want to succeed too xx corinne

  4. Moonsomnia says:

    Isn’t that the crux of it all, you’ve put yourself out there 😁 In life, that’s all you can do, to hell with trying to better anyone else or thinking others are better than you XX


  5. Oh gosh I am exactly the same as you, I become so de-motivated if I’m not naturally good at something and I personally find it such a difficult trait to deal with as sometimes I just can’t shake it and have to leave that thing behind. But you are so right, we don’t have to be the best at everything and the sooner we learn that we physically CANT, the better! Way less pressure and more time to try to enjoy, learn and laugh at our failures or mistakes. Great post!
    Alice Xx

  6. Caitlin says:

    Aww lovely post, very encouraging x

  7. eramos33665 says:

    I can relate to this post so much. I’m such a perfectionist and I hate failing so I definitely put a lot of pressure on myself. I also hate being out of my comfort zone 🙁 Thanks for sharing this relatable post girly!

  8. purrpale says:

    I am with you on this!! I’m trying to learn that not being perfect at everything is okay but it’s a learning process! x

  9. This is so true!! You are definitely not alone. There are so many things I wish I was better at and it is frustrating to know you won’t be the best at everything but it’s definitely something that needs to be taken onboard.I guess we physically don’t have the time to be able to practise and improve everything!

    Great read!

    Hayley | hayleyxmartin

  10. Kate Ballamy says:

    I loved reading this post, it’s so hard not to be competitive isn’t it! And to know that you don’t need to excel in every day 🙂

  11. glowsteady says:

    This is so true. I’m exactly the same. want to be good at everything and beat myself up when stuff doesn’t come naturally to me or I can’t see myself improving. Especially these days when everyone is posting their talents and achievements all over social media. It’s easy to forget by so important to remember that you have other strengths too. Great post x


    • bbbryony says:

      Thank you so much!! I think you definitely criticise yourself more now days as you see more people posting their achievements. Then you have to remember they are only sharing the best parts of their lives and there will be things they’re not so good at too x

  12. aims says:

    Aww I hope you enjoy more of your trip. I’m sure you’re doing great, much more than I ever could if that counts. Keep going xo

  13. Paolo B. says:

    Totally relate. I think the worse I am at something the more I want to try and improve. I’ve gotten better at picking and choosing battles though. There’s only so much time and can’t do everything so really have to think about what you want to be good at or you’ll be good at nothing. Thanks!

  14. Oh gosh we can all definitely get caught up in the need to be the best at things. I think that’d also evident in the blogging community. I think it’s normal for people to be competitive and it can be healthy and motivating but we need to know where to draw the line when it becomes too much xxx

    • bbbryony says:

      I agree so much, especially with blogging I want everything I put out to be my very best but that can be stressful. At the end of the day as long as you’ve enjoyed what you’ve created that’s all that matters x

  15. Such an open and honest post, I’ve had a tough time the last few months, and I’ve had to come to terms with the fact that I cant do and get everything right all the time. I’m a perfectionist and it’s killing me but we will all get by.
    Keep strong !

    Lizzie 🙂

    • bbbryony says:

      It’s a hard thing to come to terms with but I think things get better when you do, it can be so stressful trying to get everything perfect all the time and simply it isn’t worth the stress x

  16. Emily says:

    This was a brilliant post! I totally agree with the not liking being out of my comfort zone too! Although I think it’s good to do things you wouldn’t normally do 🙂

  17. Sometimes doing your best is all you can do. No one can be amazing at everything. I definetly switch between the “I have to get his done and done right” mindset and the “As long as I have fun and learn” mindset. I feel like balancing both of those view points is the key but also terribly hard to do. Great post! 🙂

  18. Emma McCaw says:

    Love this! I spend a lot of my time comparing myself to other people, and not enough focussing on myself and if I put half as much effort into what I’m doing, as I do into what everyone else is doing, I might be better! Haha! i hope you have a nice trip, and i’m sure you’ll be fantastic!

  19. pinkiebag says:

    Hi, I am sure many of can easily relate to this post. I am also very competitive and find it hard jsut to be ok but you are right it is ok to be average and somethings.

  20. Love this post! I know I’m so bad at being a perfectionist, like if I think I’m going to fail, I won’t even try. But I’m getting better and just having a crack at stuff like art, drawing and blogging. I’m slowly caring less about having to be perfect, and just having fun at trying.

    Good luck on the course honey! I’m sure you’ll smash it.

    Love Lily so

  21. THIS!! I feel like I can relate to this so well! I feel I am also quite an ‘average at everything’ kinda gal and I definitely hate feeling uncomfortable and out of my circle! Such a good read, thanks! P x

  22. Erin says:

    I think this is such a great post and so truthful! I am very much the same as you and always want to do well in everything. It is hard to come to that realization that you will not always be great at everything and it is hard to not compare. Thank you so much for being so transparent!

  23. Kristin says:

    Yes! I want to be perfect at everything, and it is a struggle for me to accept that I am not going to be great at everything. When I don’t succeed at something, I tend to beat myself up over it. I am still a work in progress lol

  24. Funny, I just blogged about pretty much the same thing from another angle. Being average at some things is very sweet to the soul.

  25. Hello Bexa says:

    This is so refreshing to read 💕. I love your open and honest style of blogging. It’s such an important reminder to remember it’s okay to be average. As long as you try that’s all that really matters. I hope you enjoy the rest of your trip 😘 xx

    Bexa |

  26. Lena Dee says:

    This was such a pleasant read!😁 It’s important to set standards but also not to always beat yourself up and remember it’s absolutely ok to find someone that’s better at something than you are. People should embrace that more and not dwell on making everything a competition.

  27. Kelly says:

    Loved this post! I am slowly but surely learning that everything will be okay & that it is okay to be imperfect because that makes me, me!

    Kelly xx

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