It’s easy to get worked up after a busy day rushing around, sometimes you feel like you haven’t sat down at all day, not even for 5 minutes. You’ll then get home to realise you have washing, tidying and all sorts of other jobs to do so you continue to be on the go; forgetting to take some time out for yourself to relax.

I’m trying to make more time in my daily routine to relax, if I’m not working in the evening from 8pm onwards will be de-stressing time, me time, self-care relaxing time. I’ve been doing this for the past week and it’s already made a difference on my mindset.

Here are a few of the ways I’ve been de-stressing:


I was in Norwich on the weekend doing a spot of shopping aka retail therapy and a particular shop I walked into smelt very strongly of Incense and was playing relaxing meditation music. It was at that moment that I noticed an instant difference in my mind, a wave of calm flowed through me and I realised this is something I need. A smell that meant, it’s time to be calm and chill.

I bought myself a few packs on Insense sticks which were super cheap, £1.75 each, and an Incense stick holder for £1.50, I was positively surprised with how inexpensive they are.

I’ve been making sure I light a couple of sticks in the evening in order to give my room a relaxing smell, I find smells really can make a difference to your mindset. You’re able to relate different smells to a different situation, therefore if you’re room smells the same as what you’ve smelt the rest of the day when you been stressed, it isn’t going to help. I find myself feeling calmer in the evenings, there are fewer worries in my mind as I’m relating the smell with this is the time to let yourself chill and relax and I’m allowing myself to do so.

My current favourite scent is Rose on the ‘Arjuna’ sticks.


Does anyone else feel instantly more at ease when they watch certain programmes? for me, it’s BBC Springwatch, there’s just something so satisfying about watching the bird cameras and the calm nature of the landscape they are in. The commentary the presenters do on how all the different birds are getting on in their nests is brilliant, I love it and I very much enjoy seeing the little chicks grow up and up until you tune and see they have fledged away.

I got so overly excited for it to start this year and then I missed the first week which I was gutted about, I’ve got that to catch up on. oh also, there is autumn watch we can’t forget about that, that’s another one of my favourites.


I find chilling out to some relaxing tunes can help me, these aren’t the same tunes I would listen to throughout the day or at a bbq event, these are sperate chilled tunes.

As much as I love my pop punk it doesn’t have a calm vibe to it so I will tend to avoid it for the chilled out vibe I’m aiming to achieve. A couple of my current favourites songs to relax to are: ‘Flaws’ by Chloe Foy and ‘Simple and Clean’ by Utada Hikaru. If you have any relaxing tunes that chill you out then I would love to know, please.


Fairy lighting or mood lighting as I also like to call it; a colour that seems to have a calming effect on me is pink so I have 6 sets of pink fairy lights from Primark around my room. In the evening I switch them all on and I find the dimmer lighting helps my brain to switch off and slowly wind down before going to sleep. This prevents me from laying awake for an hour/ half an hour an hour before falling asleep therefore I get more sleep and I’m not as grumpy in the morning, it’s a win-win really.


I find getting stuck into a good book is an amazing way to unwind, I try and spend half an hour in the evening reading a book. Since I’ve started doing this I’ve read 3 books in a month which I personally think is a pretty decent number. I find getting stuck into the story and lives of the characters prevents your mind from thinking about anything that’s happened during the task or any tasks you need to do tomorrow. Your mind stops worrying about the small things in life so when you eventually put the book down you’re no longer thinking about any worries you had.
I’m currently reading ‘Turtles All The Way Down’ by John Green.

How do you like to relax after a long day?

Bryony x



  1. November 20, 2018 / 8:05 pm

    I use music to relax too. I most listen to pop punk in the day or at the gym but I agree that it’s not really relaxing. I will listen to the songs that you recommended!

  2. Heather
    November 21, 2018 / 4:24 am

    I used to love burning incense sticks a couple of years ago, definitely need to start doing it again. The change in my mood used to instantly uplift and I felt so much more relaxed.

    Heather | x Highland Beauty

  3. November 21, 2018 / 10:07 am

    I’ve heard a lot about incense but for some reason, I’ve never bought the sticks. I do love scented candles though. Relaxing music makes me sleep 😂😂 I love the other two ideas especially the last one. I’m a bookworm😊 Great post!

  4. November 21, 2018 / 12:34 pm

    Honestly nothing better than curling up with a good book or TV show! Great post, lovely! 🙂 x

  5. November 21, 2018 / 3:10 pm

    Great post! I love to relax after a long day with a cup of tea, book, snuggled up on the sofa with a blanket with some candles lit ❤️ And if I’m not reading I’ll be watching a Netflix series with my housemates like the new Dogs docu-series! Great way to de-stress when it’s cold outside!

    Amy x | fleurdubelle.blogspot.co.uk

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