I find there is a level of guilt that I feel when I take a break from blogging, it’s not put on by the community, it’s very personal. It’s like from posting regularly and being active I have taken 3 steps forward, I’m getting myself out there and when I see a boost in my daily views I feel a little buzz.
After a break, I feel as if I’ve gone 4 steps back, I’ve been picking at my brain to find out why on earth it feels this way.
Firstly, I’m not getting WordPress notifications saying ‘your stat’s are booming’. In no way am I saying numbers are what matter, it’s not what I personally believe, however you get a positive kick when the numbers are good. It makes me aware that people must be liking what I’m creating or at least they want to check up on me to see what I have been up to.
It’s normal that I wouldn’t be getting as many views during a break as there is no new content going out. However, on some weird level, it makes me feel irrelevant even though I was never relevant to start with. It’s a mindset I then get trapped in and a few days break turns into a few weeks, I feel like I can’t create anything decent anymore.
I start to feel like there are better creators out there so my quality isn’t good enough, on reflection I’m aware of how utterly bonkers this sounds. I create for me, it’s a way to express myself and get silly issues off my chest. Every creator has a different personal style, no two bloggers/ blogs are the same so the comparison is so not necessary and unhelpful.
Secondly, there is also an element of ‘lack of time’ when life gets a little more hectic. When I’m left with a tiny amount of spare time I will spend that laying in bed watching a few vlogs in bed to wind down before I go to sleep. If I don’t have the energy to get up and make myself a cuppa tea after a long day at work, then my brain doesn’t work well enough to form a coherent blog post.
I find when I don’t post for over a week I need to apologize and explain myself, why do we feel like this? We do it as a hobby, there is no strict schedule that we need to stick to.
If I need a little time off for self-care, then that is what I will do. If I get busy work and I end up posting slightly less, that’s okay too.
Let’s turn this on the flip side. If one of my favourite bloggers tweeted saying ‘I’m taking a month off posting to have a bit of time to myself’, I would think ‘I hope they are okay’. If that’s what they want to do then I support that and I will be waiting for their return so I can catch up on their blog again. It would NEVER make me think any less of them so why do we feel guilty ourselves if we don’t believe others should?
We need to stop putting so much pressure on ourselves to be that stereotype of a ‘girl boss’ who will manage to fit in every little thing even when they are busy. It not healthy to keep going when you need a break, you shouldn’t feel like you have to post 3 times a week as others do.
I would love to know your thoughts on this topic. How do you feel when you take a break from blogging?